We aren't "Trying", just "Not Preventing"

Like I said before in my bio, my husband, Jerry and I got married in March of 2009 following a nearly four year courtship. I was 27 and he 33 years old. I had been on birth control for almost 10 years so both Jerry and I decided that it wouldn't hurt anything to come off of it and see what may happen. I was sure that I would get pregnant right away and this would later prove to be my biggest mistake! I truly believe that even though you say we aren't trying; we are just "not preventing", you have, as a couple taken the first step in trying to get pregnant. You just don't want to admit it. This is the first mental step because you are basically saying that everything will be alright if you come up with a positive result on the most famous test of all.